Real talk: When we think about raising our little kids in a porn-saturated world, we want to raze the whole broken system to the ground.

That we even have to have this conversation plain ol’ stinks. (Darn you, Fall of Man!)

Then, we start to brainstorm: How long can I keep porn away from our kids? (Forever?)

What if they have already discovered it? (Am I the worst parent?)

How early are we supposed to talk about the “goodness of God’s design” for sex (the mechanics of it), and how early is too early?

As first-generation parents, youth leaders, and aunts and uncles of kids with cell phones (ie. porn in our kids’ pockets), we can feel overwhelmed by how to engage the porn conversation.

But … annoyingly … we have to.

Can someone please help us?

Ministry leaders and researchers Josh Glaser and Daniel Weiss are here with the assist, and the conversation we had was helpful and hopeful. Join us?

 

Highlights

“In one study, 75 percent of parents felt their kids hadn’t seen pornography, but 50 percent of those kids in that group admitted they had looked at it. So, that means half of those parents were unaware that their kids were looking at pornography.” —Daniel Weiss

“It’s a natural human response…that when we’re found out in our sin, we like to run and we like to hide. It’s a protective mechanism. And so, instead of inviting our kids to lie to us or to evade the truth, we just let them know what we know.” -Josh Glaser

“It’s not whether or not my kid would look at pornography—that’s the wrong question. The right question is: ’Is pornography the content or kind or material that will respect my family’s boundaries or my family’s values?’ It’s not. Pornography is seeking to be found. You can be frustrated … angry … but, that’s why it’s so important to be intentional and proactive [to not only] talk about the dangers out there, but more importantly, [to talk about] the beauty of what this was all made for—God’s design. Give them the positive, the beautiful first so that everything else seems to be the counterfeit, not the other way around.” —Daniel Weiss

 

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For more on this topic, check out Jay Stringer’s book Unwanted.

You can also listen to this interview we did with Dan Allender, who addresses the connection between shame and sexuality.

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